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Aug
30

HyperhidrosisAndMe Weekly Spotlight: Your Emotional Health

Posted by: Charmaine · on August 30, 2010 | Comments (0)

Since I seem to be on a bit of a kick regarding mental/emotional health, I thought it would be logical to focus the ol’ Spotlight on the fields of psychiatry and psychology.

I am one of those people who believe that a little– or a lot– of therapy never hurt anybody.  We all have issues.  Whether it was a difficult childhood, being bullied in school, substance abuse in the home, or if you secretly suffered from unexplained sweating episodes and were, say,  convinced you were a freak (I don’t know where I got that one from)… everyone can benefit from talking it out with someone who knows how to guide you through processing your feelings so that you can move on.

If you have hyperhidrosis– and if you are reading this, let us assume that you do– you may regard this disorder as just a nuisance to be managed and really have a healthy perspective on it.  If so, that is commendable and somewhat amazing, in my opinion.  I am on a journey to that state of mind!  It has been a very long one.  If you have read the post from earlier this week about my emotional scars from having hyperhidrosis throughout childhood and beyond, you already know how hard I have had to work to be able to bare my soul to you, my familiar strangers who walk along the same (formerly) lonely road.

If your sense of self was damaged like mine, I can tell you that it helps immeasurably to have someone look at you and tell you all the positive things you are not able to tell yourself.  If you are anything like me, you have had so many negative thoughts about yourself swimming around inside your head that there is no sense of perspective, and it is difficult to imagine how everyone else may regard you.

The key to undergoing truly successful therapy is finding a psychologist or licensed clinical social worker who knows what hyperhidrosis is and truly understands the harm it causes the psyche.  Unfortunately, this may be like finding the proverbial needle in the haystack– there seems to be precious little awareness about hyperhidrosis in this field.  Hopefully, with time, awareness, and a little less shyness on our part (!!!), this will change.  In the meantime, just find someone who comes with excellent references and if they are good at what they do, you can help them understand how this has affected your life.  Please do not let a therapist tell you the sweating is psychosomatic, and can be entirely controlled or cured from therapy, meditation, or hypnosis. It simply is not true.  This happened to me– and the therapist was someone I highly respected and liked.  In fact, I still respect this person tremendously and know he is a gifted therapist.  He simply was misinformed about what hyperhidrosis is and what causes it, and that is a circumstance that is sadly all too common.

Meditation, therapy and hypnosis may turn out to be excellent tools in helping you to deal with your hyperhidrosis.  They may help you to become less anxious, more confident, and happier in general.  These tools will not turn off your overactive sweat glands; I just want to make that clear!

So, find thyself a therapist.  While you’re at it, make sure your insurance will cover it!  I believe it is time to harp away on that subject…. so perhaps next week, we will talk health insurance and your rights!  I can sense you are tingling in anticipation…

To bide your time until then, be sure to check out my page called Strategies, if you have not done so already, to see what other tricks and tools I recommend.

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Aug
25

An Open Letter About Hyperhidrosis in Children

Posted by: Charmaine · on August 25, 2010 | Comments (1)

Earlier this month, I came across an article published in a medical journal that addressed the issue of anxiety in children, advising what pediatricians should be looking for.  While the article was written for the medical community and not “lay” persons such as myself, I naturally felt the need to add my two cents.

Having been a child who suffered in isolation, I felt I had a different perspective to offer.  You can read the article here and you will see that the author (who is, from what I understand, a top professional in her specialty) goes into great detail about using screening tests and other tools to determine whether a child suffers from anxiety disorder, panic attacks, or even OCD.  I firmly believe an “anxious” child should be screened for hyperhidrosis, as well.  Here is an excerpt of what I wrote:

“….I am writing to you because I wanted to share another perspective on anxiety in children and adolescents.

I am a stay at home mother of five children who range in ages 5-15.  I also have started a website recently about primary hyperhidrosis.  I hope it is not presumptuous of me, but I wanted to let you know that I suspect that at least some children– particularly adolescents– who present as anxious may actually be anxious due to hyperhidrosis.  As I’m sure you already know, hyperhidrosis often appears during puberty, which is most certainly a bewildering, upsetting, and embarrassing experience.

I write about hyperhidrosis because I have had it since early childhood.  I grew up with the slow realization that I was different from everyone else I knew.  As I grew older, the subliminal message that sweating is shameful and disgusting (thank you, advertising campaigns of the 1970′s) became ingrained in me and I regarded myself in that light.  By the time I was 13, I was anxious and desperate to make it stop.  I was also too utterly ashamed to tell a soul about it.  It never occurred to me that I had a disorder; I was simply convinced that I was a freak and as such, utterly worthless.  This, despite the fact that I was the adored youngest child of a large, close-knit family.

One night, after sweating uncontrollably throughout Urban Cowboy (who does that during a movie??), I had had enough and was caught by my older sister rifling through medicine cabinets, determined to commit suicide.  I tried to explain why I was so distraught; I finally spoke of my shame and the source of it.  They (my parents and adult older siblings) brushed it aside.  They determined, despite my protests, that I was suicidal due to some other family dynamics which had indeed created a tense atmosphere in our home.  Of course that was a factor in my anxiety, I do know and acknowledge that.  But I also know that I was an adolescent with nowhere to turn, dealing with an issue that was bigger than me.  I never spoke of my sweating again until I was in my early 30′s and heard the word “hyperhidrosis” quite by accident.

I am telling you this because I know that my experience is not unique.  I also know that for reasons I cannot understand, the fields of psychiatry/psychology seem to be rather oblivious to the severe damage hyperhidrosis wreaks on the self-esteem of people who are like me.  Perhaps the reason is that “we” are so ashamed that we suffer in isolation and fail to explain the source and depth of our pain.  It is not “just sweating”. It is the pain of being different, of not being in control, the fear of discovery through the senses of touch, sight, and smell.  It is every day.

People who don’t suffer from this really, truly, don’t “get it”.  Sadly, many therapists could ease this pain and are utterly uninformed and thereby make it worse.  I had a wonderful therapist (an LCSW) whom I admire in every other respect, but who told me that it was all in my head; that I could completely control it with meditation and therapy.  I now know how wrong he was, and I wasted a lot of time and energy on something that was not helpful.

How many pediatricians are missing this diagnosis?  Hyperhidrosis has no definitive cure, but a referral to a dermatologist for medical treatment and a referral to an informed psychologist could make a world of difference to a child who is drowning in shame.

I have carved out a wonderful life, but I wonder what my life would have been like if I had not been convinced I was a freak for 33 years of it….”

I should have added that my family did try to help me through that rough period by sending me to a psychologist.  If that psychologist knew that what I had was a medical disorder and had diagnosed me with hyperhidrosis, it would have saved me from a great deal of pain and self-loathing.  Sad to say, I believe very little has changed since the early ’80′s in that regard.  The same oversights are likely still occurring all over the world.

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